Why Our Childhood Sets The Scene For Life-Long Relationships

Why Our Childhood Sets The Scene For Life-Long Relationships

The quality of our foremost relationships in our lives are crucial to all aspects of our adult life.  Humans are intrinsically hardwired to survive, and the most powerful drive we have as infants is to form emotional bonds with our primary caregiver so they can help us stay alive, and to help us feel safe. […]

Why Our Triggers Are Important

Why Our Triggers Are Important

Maybe you hold a belief that emotional triggers are bad and you spend a lot of time and energy avoiding them, denying them, suppressing them, or ignoring them. I invite you to continue reading anyway, and maybe you might gain a slightly different perspective by the end of this article. First of all, we need […]

What My Clients Have Taught Me

What My Clients Have Taught Me

I have a very privileged position being a therapist. It is a deeply humbling experience to hear things that clients have never told anyone else, and to hold space for emotions being expressed that have been held back for years. My clients teach me a lot about life, so I thought I would collate some […]

Trauma And The Human Experience

Trauma And The Human Experience

Trauma is often at the root cause of many problems and health issues.  Even with the most idyllic childhood, at some point in our journey as humans, we are going to experience some level of distress.  Distress can be on a scale from a short, acute episode that is resolved, to deep traumatic disturbances that […]

Therapy Works And Here Is The Evidence

Therapy Works And Here Is The Evidence

People spend a lot of time and money dealing with physical symptoms, in order to feel and look better.  We tend to trust without question that seeing the doctor for an ailment is going to produce some sort of relief, or cure.    We go to the gym and exercise class in full trust that it’s going to improve our […]

Important Things You Didn’t Know About Counselling

Important Things You Didn’t Know About Counselling

Have you ever considered attending counselling?  What were your reasons for not going through with it? Did you feel that it was too confusing to find the right professional? Or did it feel like it wasn’t for you, or that you could work through it on your own or with a trusted friend or family […]

What You Need to Know About Trauma

What You Need to Know About Trauma

There are many reasons why my clients choose to start therapy.  Once we start talking, it becomes clear that a great number of these reasons are symptoms of a much more destructive  root cause.  People could virtually go through their whole life with this debilitating problem.  It has the ability to wreak havoc on people’s […]

5 Reasons Why Everyone Benefits from Counselling

5 Reasons Why Everyone Benefits from Counselling

Counselling provides many benefits.  How much time do you spend taking care of your mental and emotional wellbeing?  Everywhere we go it seems we are told how to take care of our physical bodies – exercise more, eat less fat and sugar. We are told about the latest harmful effects of smoking, drinking alcohol and […]

Resentment: the Relationship Killer

Resentment- the Relationship Killer

There are few things more corrosive to a relationship than resentment. You know the feeling resentment gives you when you feel that someone has let you down: that simmering, sour, irritable feeling in the pit of your stomach, a deep sense of unfairness. Resentment appears when you feel unacknowledged, unheard, feel unfairly treated, taken advantage […]