Anger is the fight part of our primitive survival response. Anger used in the right way, can fuel change, force us to create personal boundaries, correct injustices done to ourselves and others, and push us to take action. Anger used in the wrong way can destroy relationships and have us say and do things that we later regret.
Anger can be externalised, obviously, but anger can be also internalised, if we have received messages in childhood that anger is bad or wrong.
Anger is the fight part of our primitive survival response. Anger used in the right way, can fuel change, force us to create personal boundaries, correct injustices done to ourselves and others, and push us to take action. Anger used in the wrong way can destroy relationships and have us say and do things that we later regret.
Anger can be externalised, obviously, but anger can be also internalised, if we have received messages in childhood that anger is bad or wrong.
Chronic reactive anger can be used as a defence mechanism, and typically masks underlying feelings and situations where we have felt powerless, upset, unheard and unseen in past experiences. Sometimes it’s easier to use anger as an avoidance strategy rather than look at painful events and feelings from the past. Sometimes anger is a sign that your needs aren’t being met, which is a trigger for needs not being met in childhood, being ignored, invalidated, unseen or unheard.
Neither painful events nor anger will go away if you don’t work through the underlying issues or problems. It’s not a sign of weakness to admit to having anger issues. It’s a sign of strength to take ownership of your strong feelings and choose to do things differently. If you are expressing anger that is violent, abusive or negative, it’s time to change the pattern, release triggers from your nervous system and build healthy relationships.
A holistic approach is the most effective way I know of helping you to restore calm and balance into your life.
My clients often experience:
Chrysalis Health was an incredible experience that I am so grateful to have been a part of. Kate has an amazing ability to adapt her technique to her clients' needs which makes her an incredibly versatile person to work with. Beyond that, she has a real sense of calmness and warmth that enhanced the effect of working with her ten-fold for me, as a result I feel that I have come away with a real sense of clarity and peace. I would recommend Kate to anyone looking to get to know themselves better as you couldn't find a better coach to guide you through it.
I have had just two sessions with Kate and I have achieved more in those two session than I have in 20 years plus of different therapies. I felt safe and supported so much so that there no effort on my part to move massive energy blocks that have been crippling me all my adult life. I am filled with gratitude for the gifts of this amazing woman and highly recommend her to anyone that has a heart desire to change their reality for the better.
Kate Kernick was an absolute amazing counsellor - her experience is invaluable and has made me learn so much about myself!
I’ve had many sessions over the years to assist with an odd and horrific anxiety that befalls me up on waking usually I’m symptom free for a short while and then the anxiety hits me hard again when another traumatic event occurred for me. After a (remote) session with Kate a month ago, this feeling has not returned. I’ve not gone a month without this anxiety in the last 12 years until now. Believe me, I’ve been tested over the past few days, and I’ve woken up every morning without that soul shattering anxiety. Thank you beautiful Kate, I am more grateful than I can say.
My process is all about making sure you feel comfortable and safe, and see a path to wellness for yourself.
1. Complimentary 20 minute discovery call
We’ll explore your needs and find out if we’d be a great fit to work together. The most important aspect of therapy is finding a therapist you feel comfortable and safe with, and can give you an expectation of actually being able to help
2. Your First Session
The initial session is like a fact-finding mission and an extension of the discovery call. At the end of the initial session clients report feeling:
3. Treatment Plan
Formulate a unique treatment plan to help you feeling better fast
Holistic counselling that empowers you to break old belief systems, effectively process trauma, and live a happier life
Kate really just understands what's going on, she has the insight you would want from a therapist to understand your needs and wants, my partner has been seeing Kate for a few months and already through the many tools she gave him to heal and recover she has helped him come such a long way through his trauma recovery, he is starting to smile a bit each day which I could not have even imagined a few months ago, it is only early days and I can already see the benefits of the beautiful work she does, it is truly a gift to see Kates work come to fruition, I am so greatful we were led to her as a therapist, if you want true healing in your life, Kate is a wonderful, warm, insightful, committed therapist you won't go wrong with, I would just encourage anybody to just stick out the therapy even when it gets hard, as she will be there for you and guide you along the way, if you want results and an effect, see Kate, couldn't recommend highly enough.